Deadnaming? REALLY!? You gotta be shitting me.
Ok, look.. If you’re going to throw around terms like deadnaming; At least have the intelligence to know what it is, what it actually means, and how to actually use it. My dead names are Jesse and Fidel. I don’t use them anymore. Neither legally or anywhere online. My new names are nothing like either of my dead names. I go by Ezmy for short. Which is of course short for Ezmyrelda. My new name.
Secondly, nowhere in the exchange did I use said name. I called on a point of clarity. It’s my opinion that they don’t have a deadname. They are still using said name, no matter how they try to rationalize it. If a name threatens and insults you so much you use the term “deadname” for it, you sure as fuck won’t use anything like it.. You will go out of your way to use something absolutely unlike it. This isn’t opinion so much as experience. Not once have I ever met a person that used a shortened form of their dead name as what they went by.. Furthermore, I highly doubt the person in question was given the name in question at birth. Therefore, not deadname. Just a name the person in question does not enjoy anymore.
Ok.. I think it’s out of my system. I am irate and monumentally distrustful of this person for other reasons. I empathise with them and feel they have even worse mental-emotional problems than I do, but they are welcome to the collection of people that does fawn over them. I’m distrustful of those individuals at least as much for the same reason.. But.. people in pain do a lot of things to find a peer group. Not all of them respectful or non-appropriative.
Oh, P.S. There is a definite difference between “your shit” and “you’re shit”. but.. you know.. whatever.. I guess there isn’t one if you throw around words as you see fit.